To Talk to Girls...

James,

How can I appear less creepy to the opposite gender. I just always seem to come off the wrong way when I'm trying to pick up girls.

Thanks,


Mallory


Normally I advice against empathy. It seems to mostly be a way to double the number of problems you have to deal with, while simultaneously halving the power you have to solve them. In this instance, however, a little empathy might actually be your best bet. Understanding what women find creepy isn't as hard as you'd imagine, you just have to walk (about) a mile in their shoes. With this in mind, put on a pair of women's pumps, or at least something sensible enough to get you to the nearest gay bar. Hang out there for a bit soliciting pick up attempts from the local citizenry. If you haven't blown your cover as a straight man completely after an hour you should have a fair sized array of pick up lines. Remember all the ones that made the hair on the back of your neck stand on end and your teeth grit? Don't use those. Now change your shoes, take a walk down the street to the nearest straight bar, walk inside and and strike up a conversation in the same manner that the more pleasant men you met earlier used. While doing this try to keep the number of times you glance at the girl's chest below the number of inches of cleavage her top displays.





These two tips should cover your bases if you're exhibiting any sort of standard level creepiness.





Best of Luck,


James